Tyra Banks once said; ‘never dull your shine for somebody else’. Raymond Hull, believed that ‘He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away.’ And Dave Thomas once quoted that; ‘If there are things you didn’t like in the world you grew up in, make your own life different’. Now there’s that one citation that really got to me, by Oscar Wilde; ‘Most people are other people, their thoughts are somebody else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation’.
Most of us don’t know who we really are. Not because we can’t, but because we haven’t given ourselves a chance to. We keep acting and doing what everyone does or what the world wants us to do. And in the end, we end up trying to be what we think the world wants us to be, somebody we are not. The core reason for this being, that we are so afraid of disapproval, and that we enormously need the attention of others. We become so desperate for the approval of others that we live unhappy, restricted and limited lives, denying ourselves what we really want. Contentment. Peace. Joy.
It’s never a good idea to want to be somebody other than who you really are. Insecurity can eat you up and leave you worse than you are. Don’t ever think you are not good enough. Yes, there are some things you wanna change about yourself, everybody has that. Just don’t be too hard on yourself. Plan to become better; and not by comparing yourself with somebody else, because there’s always going to be that person who has more than you do. Just know that you have every right to have a nice life. Who said you are not perfect? Who said you’re not cut for it? Who said you’re not beautiful? If you listen too much to what people say, you’ll stop seeing the real you on the mirror but what they think of you. And the worst thing anybody can do to herself is let other people’s voices and words infiltrate and become her inner voice.
At the same time, don’t think for a moment that you’re the only one hurting and doubting…just have confidence in yourself. Plus ain’t it better to be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else? Sometimes I think people are too busy worrying about what people think about them and in reality, the people out there are probably too busy worrying about the same thing..
Do what you really wanna do and be happy that you did it, don’t do it and then rely on others’ approval to know what to feel about it. I believe one should not care so much what he is to others as he cares what he is to himself. It’s high time YOU became in control of your life and not let others pull your strings. If you would like to win but think you can’t, because you let somebody else make you think so, then it’s almost a cinch you won’t.
A relaxed mind, a peaceful soul, a joyful spirit, a healthy body and a heart full of love…the only way we can have all these is by letting our lives be guided by our innate values which come from within us, and not a set of values imposed on us by others. People are different, plus their opinions change, and you would end up getting yourself worn out trying to please everyone every time.
You don’t need to be accepted by others; you need to accept yourself. This time why don’t you and I try live life in our terms, and see how it goes. I wouldn’t let anybody make me ashamed of who I am, not one bit. Guess what, you laugh because I’m different; I laugh because you guys are all the same.
Remember, Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. There’s actually no one to stop you but yourself. Don’t lose yourself. Embrace yourself.